Ever catch yourself wondering if you’ll ever find love again? Are you the kind of person who needs time to really get to know someone before even considering anything romantic? Maybe you’re yearning for that classic ’90s kind of love, where relationships felt more genuine, or perhaps you just feel like you were born in the wrong era altogether. Modern dating with its apps and singles nights? No, thank you!

If this sounds like you, unintentional dating might be exactly what you’re looking for.

For those of us who feel left behind in the whirlwind of modern dating, it can be overwhelming. Some people say we need to “get with the times”, “you’ll get used to it”, “it’s the way it is now”, “it’s the only way to meet people” wtf! No thanks! People are swiping through dating apps like we used to flip through the Argos catalogue, circling potential Christmas gifts. Back then, it was fun because they were just objects. Now, people are swiping through potential love interests as if picking out a new pair of shoes. And while some people thrive in this world, what about those of us who want no part of it?

I often hear people say they are talking to multiple people at once! How can you really give someone your full attention, if its being shared out between so many? Then others say I must talk to multiple people because they will each be talking to multiple people so you can’t put all your eggs in one basket, or you’ll get ghosted and hurt after putting in too much effort with the ghost! Do we blame love island for this? Social Media? Influencers? Either way it’s a fake depiction of reality that we have settled on to measure up to!

And don’t even get me started on ghosting. People vanish from our lives as quickly as they entered, leaving us wandering through the graveyard of modern dating, where connections go to die. It’s like a conveyor belt—swipe, connect, ghost, repeat. For those who ghost, it’s just another day, another potential partner. For those of us left behind. It’s yet another reason to avoid the madness. Oh, and I forgot to mention the “zombie” phase—when someone who ghosted you suddenly reappears! Trust us, it’s better to stay in the graveyard because they’ll drag you back, only to send you right back there again.

It’s no wonder people aren’t happy. Some have become addicted to this grown-up game of “human shopping,” endlessly browsing profiles and swiping for validation. But when real connections need to be made, the whole illusion crumbles. We’ve lost the ability to connect authentically, and that’s a real shame. Its playing havoc on people’s mental health and creating a world where more and more of us are becoming more and more lonely with each dip into the traumatic modern day dating pool!

We don’t meet people in person anymore. Socialising has become a rarity, and for those of us with scars from past relationships, the idea of jumping back into the dating pool feels overwhelming. So why not take the pressure off and focus on widening our social circles instead? Get to know like-minded people without the stress of “finding the one.” If love blossoms, fantastic! If not, at least we’ve made some amazing friends. Who knows? Maybe one of those friends will introduce us to someone special down the line.

Think of it like offering a 2-year-old too many sweets—they get overwhelmed with too many choices. That’s exactly what happens on dating apps. People are so bombarded with options that they can’t settle, always wondering if there’s something better out there. It’s a never-ending search for more validation, with people connecting more easily with strangers online than in real life! They chase “perfection,” not realising it doesn’t exist, losing the chance for real, deep connections.

Now, modern dating isn’t all bad. I know a few friends and family members who met their partners that way, but those are rare cases. Most people I know are stuck in the cycle—traumatised, ghosted, and confused by new dating “rules.” Booty calls, friends with benefits, situationships, exclusive, closed off and “talking stages”—it’s like dating has become one giant maze of confusion If you’re regularly seeing and sleeping with someone, it’s a relationship—unless you’ve both clearly agreed otherwise. The dating waters are so muddied with all this terminology that people are too confused to define what they want, and one party inevitably ends up taking advantage. Nope, not for us. There are many others who feel the same way, so let’s stop pretending otherwise.

And singles nights? They’re often just another avenue for people who are already on the apps. You might meet someone in real life, only to find out they’re swiping away on Tinder, Bumble, Hinge and just about every other app out there too! It’s no surprise that many are stuck in a loop, going back to dating apps for the quick fix of validation.

If this resonates with you, then welcome to our group. We’re not here to intentionally date or seek out romance. We’re here to meet new people, build friendships, and create meaningful connections—without the pressures of modern dating.

We’ll be organising get-togethers in local venues, where you can enjoy quizzes, games, and entertainment. These events are all about having fun and building connections in a relaxed atmosphere. And if there’s demand, we can also arrange other activities or events outside the area. Complete as much info as you can on the sign-up form so we can cater to your interests. If you don’t suggest, we’ll never know what you’re looking for! We can even hold events for different age groups, and if there’s interest, we can plan nights with or without alcohol. But we won’t be holding any online events so don’t ask for that —this is about real-life, meaningful interactions, not virtual conversations.

So, this is exclusively for singles who are NOT currently dating via any method but who would like to broaden their social circle, meet new people, make new friends in the same situation and just build on that format until you are ready to date again, by which point you have already met them in the group!

*Disclaimer: If you’re currently on dating apps or actively attending singles events, this group isn’t for you. This isn’t another avenue to hook up or date—this group is specifically for those of us who have never been on dating apps, aren’t actively dating right now, and want to focus on real connections instead of intentional dating.